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Salt Spring Island Grief

Root Story

A weekend to call us back home to kinship through movement, the mythopoetic, and the alchemy of ritual.

 

This ritual asks the question: 

Where is home for the outcast, the wild child, the weird one or the dark mother?

We live in a crisis of unbelonging.  So many of us unworthy, cast out, or disconnected from a sense of home and wild belonging.  Some say this is a root story, a primeval severing, a wounding that began as far back as early childhood, perhaps even farther back in the human journey. 

 

"What if some of the emptiness or longing we feel inside us is not a failure of our own personalities, but instead comes from the absence of birdsong, the smell of sweet grass, the melancholy call of the loon, our wild mother?" 

Francis Weller - The Wild Edge of Sorrow

 

As the veil thins and the long nights stretch out before us mirroring the dark places within, our sorrows and sadness naturally rise up for release, for weeping, wailing and witnessing...  

 

Remember your way home with us: the opening that comes with laughter and movement, the aliveness that arrives on the other side of deep release. Breathe in fresh air and silence, breathe in kindness among kin who wrestle with similar losses and sorrows, these same cast-out and grieving inner ones.

 

Will you Join us..? Will you come dance in the rain, in the water and fire, stones and bones of your own heart? 

Event Details

November 1-3, 2024

Friday: 2:00 pm - 10:00 pm (soft arrival from 2-5pm)

Saturday: 10:15 am to 10:00 pm

Sunday: 10:15 am to 2:00 pm

Location: Private home on Salt Spring Island

Root Story

"Grieving, by its very nature, confirms our worth."  - Francis Weller

 

Early early bird: $350 (by Oct. 1st)

Early bird: $395 (by Oct. 20th)

Full price: $425 (after Oct. 20th, registration closes Oct. 30th)

 

We are a large facilitation team and I wish to both honour our time and heart-full efforts as well as offer some scholarship spots at a reduced rate. If you have the means to pay the full price of $425, please do so. Thank you!

 

Please reach out to inquire about reduced rates if needed. Payment plans are also an option.

For more information, contact Cat at [email protected]

Curious to know more?

 

Friday

We will beautify the space, share a meal, gather together around the fire and receive the eldership of an old story.

Saturday

We will court our grief through several pathways: nature connection, sensory awareness, movement, play, sit-spot, poetry, handwork and togetherness.

Saturday evening

We will work with ritual, drumming and cathartic expression of grief.

Sunday

We’ll connect with the land, share food, circle up and integrate.

 

Friday supper, Saturday evening pre- and post ritual meals, and Sunday brunch will be included.

What is Grief?

Grief touches all of our lives. Many of us have lost someone we loved, experienced loneliness, felt the weight of ancestral burdens or struggled to face the harsh realities of this world. Grief can take many forms; sorrow, anger, shame, fear. The expression of grief has become a taboo in our culture, and so we have become alone with it. In exiling grief, we also exile its innate intelligence, its ability to point us towards healing. As Martin Prechtel puts it, “Grief is praise, because it is the natural way that love honors what it misses.” Love and grief are two sides of the same coin. In regaining our ability to grieve we also regain our ability to live and love fully. Here is a great talk that elaborates further on these ideas. Please listen before attending: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6h3JNOCTYc 

This work is inspired by the work of Jon Young, Malidoma & Sobonfu Somé, Randy & Rowena Jones, Joanna Macy, Francis Weller and Michael Meade.

What is Ritual?

Ritual is an opportunity for us to come together in a manner we may have forgotten but know deep in our bones. It's a space for verbal and non-verbal conversation with the unseen in its myriad of mysterious forms and expressions. A grief ritual invites us to freely and fully express our grief in conversation with the unseen, to experience the eldership of story and to become more wildly ourselves.

 

"Even the simplest of rituals is a way of acknowledging the unseen, the unspoken-about, the holy, which feeds our lives with its inexhaustible generosity. Ritual restores us to one another and to that grander coherence to which we all belong. Devoting your time to a ritual is like tending to a living bridge between the seen and the unseen, keeping that reciprocity alive.

Toko-pa Turner from Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home

Root Story

Courting our grief through the alchemy of togetherness and ritual

Courtney

Cat Gibbs

Hummingbird Ears with Nothing to Offer

Cat did not come easily to the path of grief ritual holding. Her response to wounding as a young girl was to shut down her capacity to feel, in both heart and body. Over the past year, she has stepped up into a strong leadership role, holding the seat of design and ritual flow.  Much to her own trembling surprise, Cat is finding both an intuitive ritual competency and the strong voice of eldership.

 

Over the past two decades, Cat has traveled rocky roads inwardly and outwardly: diving deep into nature connection and cultural repair with Wisdom of the Earth Wilderness School, journeying with plant medicine, and apprenticing in grief tending and ritual literacy with Randy & Rowena Jones.  Along the way, she has gathered powerful tools of witnessing, tending both herself and others, and holding the big picture at the same time. No simple task.

 

Community members frequently seek Cat out for personal and relational anchoring, her capacity for deep listening, her long acquaintance with shame and shame resilience, her warm and joyful heart, and her trauma-informed approach, above all for the safe space she holds.

 

Cat has spent over ten years working for SelfDesign Learning Community as an Educator, mentoring and supporting parents in unravelling their deeply held beliefs around children, parenting, school, and learning.

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Belinda White

Belinda is a deep nature connection mentor and guide for children and adults in Vancouver and beyond, a skilled photographer, and a passionate storyteller who lives and breathes the art and magic of weaving with image and word.

 

She dwells at the potent intersections of story, nature connection, inner tracking, earth arts and cultural repair through writing, poetry, workshop and ritual. Belinda came to this work through the profound struggles of raising a child through divorce and without an extended village. Along the way there have been two enduring questions: What is it that connects us deeply to life? Can the trauma of disconnection be repaired?

 

Belinda’s desire is to weave a basket of belonging and she tends to ritual space with a sensitivity and care especially for those who fall through the cracks. These past 5 years, she has deepened her study of mythic storytelling, applying the old tales as medicine, deep listening, inner tracking, grief tending and council practice. Belinda is immeasurably grateful to Wisdom of the Earth, Jon Young, Randy and Rowena Jones, Malidoma Some, and the many Youngians, Mythologists, and poets that have carried the seeds of deep imaginal connection forward to these times.
 

Visit Belinda on Instagram and Facebook @applestarphoto @theTwiningTrail 
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See more of her photography and writing
https://applestarphoto.com
https://substack.com/@thetwiningtrail

Courtney

Stevie Chernish

Stevie’s winding journey has taken her on many walks of life, wearing many faces. And so, she welcomes those folks who live apart from the mainstream narratives that often dominate our colonial culture. Stevie is a fortress of reckoned silence who holds a fire to light the way for fellow travellers carrying heavy burdens of rejection, abandonment, those queering the in-between, the confusing places of dark and light, traversing the skin into the hollow bone.


Immersed in the 8 shields lineage, School of Lost Borders, and the work of Bill Plotkin, Stevie is also indebted to her studies of ritual, moon, and dream work carried by such as Randy and Rowena Jones, Meladome Somé, Dallal Olver, and Michelle Cunningham. Her passion for culture-building flows through her Death Café offerings and her counselling practice. Stevie welcomes the lost art of grieving and nature connection back to modern times. Stevie weaves together strands of tradition and intuition to craft spaces that hold sacred grief and support others to be welcomed in their many selves. 
 

Stevie knows the territory of loss oh so well. A forever quester in the dark woods on the search for belonging, she seeks to find the Deeper Holder. She courts this great Mystery with a dedication, fixing her eyes on the North Star, and inviting us all to explore what death, in its many forms, takes from us and what it offers us.
 

www.steviechernishcounselling.com

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Robyn Fila

The map is not the territory.


Who am I? A traveler, a mother, a teacher, a learner, a mentor, a weaver of tales, a disciple of life, a speaker of tongues and part ocean.

Hailing from a long line of dissidents and truth tellers, I come by my ways honestly and have a strong line of Slavic women at my back.

 

In my work as a program manager and instructor at the University of Victoria, I am as committed (if not more so) to unlearning and unraveling as I am to learning in a traditional sense. My work in experiential learning crosses epistemological, ontological, mythical, geographical and temporal boundaries. I track the edges, boundaries, containment and the protection of spaces.  I am comfortable holding questions without simple answers and I like going off script.


 In love and in grief, with grit, grace and guile.

Courtney

Sequoia Lesosky

Following his cry for village, Sequoia has become an embodied specimen of a human devoted to be in service to the collective health. His gifts work like the fungi, sometimes unseen, but connecting people to vital nutrients that keeps them thriving. 

 

Humble as fungi, he loves to support others in finding their authentic roars and cries. He brings deep love, care and harvestable dedication to ritual and community containers.

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Li Samadhi

Li is a compassionate and intuitive space holder for grief rituals.  She co-creates a safe, grounded environment for people to express and process their emotions. With an understanding of the transformative power of ritual, Li brings a nurturing presence that allows for vulnerability and healing.

 

 As the lead drummer in the ritual, she uses rhythm and sound as sacred tools to guide participants through their emotional journeys, creating a rhythmic heartbeat that connects everyone in the space. Her drumming weaves together the collective energy, helping to anchor the group in the moment and amplify the release of grief in a communal and supportive way.

Salt Spring Island Grief

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